Notes:
- I listen to a podcast or watch a TED Talk and call myself an expert.
- If you don’t look back, the shadow won’t catch you.
- I found myself out on an island and instead of swimming back to shore and saying “Whoa, I found myself all by myself out there” I just said “This is my island, this is how this is going to be.”
- Any time you find yourself saying the words “If they would just”, I don’t care who “they” is or what the “just” is … the problem is probably in the mirror, it’s probably not them.
- Key takeaway … don’t attack the bass player!
- All the people that were epidemiologists over the last two years are now experts on war. They think “I have to deliver to my platform expert opinion on stuff I pretty much know nothing about.”
- When in a constant state of “fight or flight”, our brains trades accuracy for speed
- We’ve become great co-managers of our homes. We’re just co-workers now.
- We’ve filled our houses with so much nonsense, so much busyness and insanity that we have to run it like a company.
- Our grandparent became soulmates after 70 years together, but suddenly 50 years ago we tried to reverse engineer the process and said we need soulmates FIRST, and everything else afterwards.
- We’ve outsourced our identities to our kids. They are a proxy for how good a parent we are. If they’re fast on the track, or good at Little League, or make good grades, then we feel good about our performance as parents.
- When you create a solo universe, “These are my plans in my world, and what are you doing to contribute to my world?”. Whenever you do that in a marriage you force your partner to do the same thing in order to survive. They have to create their own world.
- It’s about relationships, not about right and wrong.
- Turn off the devices and connect with those that love us.
